There are yards and then there are gardens. This is the difference.
If you want a garden rather than a yard, you have to invest yourself in it. It’s fine (and usually necessary) to enlist the help of pros, but it’s your long-term cultivation of plants and the knowledge that grows with them that are the hallmarks of an authentic place.
One of the best examples I know of this is the Annapolis home of Nancy and Pierre Moitrier.